Your People Are Out There. Sometimes They're Just a Few Houses Down.
Making friends after 40 is possible. It just looks a little different than it did in your 20s.
There are no built-in social structures anymore. No dorm hallways. No college classes where you see the same people three times a week until someone finally introduces themselves. As an adult, friendship requires something most of us were never really taught how to do. You have to put yourself out there.
And that starts with where you live.
There are no built-in social structures anymore. No dorm hallways. No college classes where you see the same people three times a week until someone finally introduces themselves. As an adult, friendship requires something most of us were never really taught how to do. You have to put yourself out there.
And that starts with where you live.
Put yourself out there
The neighborhood you choose matters more than most people realize when they're house hunting. Square footage and school ratings get all the attention. But what about the block party that happens every July? The dog park where everyone knows everyone? The neighbor who leaves tomatoes from her garden on your porch in August?
Those things are not accidents. They are products of community. And community is built by people who show up.
Say yes to the neighborhood event even when you're tired. Start a conversation at the dog park instead of scrolling your phone. Compliment someone's garden. Wave first. It feels small. It is not small.
You would be amazed at the people who live right around you. The ones who become your emergency contacts. Your dinner party regulars. Your people.
But first, you have to find the right place to plant yourself.
If you are thinking about buying in Westchester County or Fairfield County and community is on your must-have list, I would love to help. I am not just looking for a house that checks boxes. I am looking for a home that fits your life.
Let's find it together.
📍 Westchester County, NY & Fairfield County, CT
As we get deeper into fall, it seems our economic and interest rate picture is changing rapidly.
You can scroll through every listing in Katonah from your couch tonight. You can see the square footage, the acreage, the stone walls, and the kitchen renovation from 2019.
If I were moving to Northern Westchester today, I wouldn't start with a home tour. I'd start with a weekend.